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A socializing game: Driver’s seat (by Anne Hodgson)

A few weeks ago I was teaching a group of personal and team assistants (PAs) I hadn’t met before how to assist international teams. This group didn’t need to go over critical incidents they’d had with foreign team members. Instead, they said their biggest challenge was making small talk with their visiting American team members. So that’s what we practiced.

Going through standard activities – getting phrases right, extending dialogues, developing initial and follow-up questions, roleplaying first meetings – I noticed that their conversations seemed too artificial to engage anyone. In short, they didn’t know how to get their partners talking.

So I used and adapted a great activity or game developed by Jo Westcombe. She calls it “Flies on the windscreen” and you can read about it here. Jo’s basic idea is that two people are sitting in a car on their way back from the airport, where one has just picked up the other. It’s slightly “surreal”, she says, as cards with small talk topics “hit the windscreen” like so many flies, and the two people must respond to them smoothly.

With these very down-to-earth PAs, who had no trouble speaking but couldn’t get their partner to say anything, I realized it would need to be adapted, and so renamed it “Driver’s seat”. This is based on the concept that the hostess/host should take a proactive role in moving the small talk forward, and discover pleasant areas of common interest to build a friendly, relaxed social relationship on.

This is the  hostess’/host’s brief:

  • You’re in the driver’s seat! You’re responsible for keeping the conversation going. Find out what your visitor is really interested in.
  • Discover pleasant areas that interest both of you.
  • Stick to and share general topics.
  • Lead the way with yes/no questions.
  • Follow up with more open questions.
  • Give tips, but also be authentic.
  • Goal: Make it a really good conversation.

This is the visitor’s brief:

  • You’re visiting for the first time.
  • Your host’s PA is picking you up.
  • She may be pleasant and helpful, she may not be.
  • Look at the topic cards on the table. Select three that really interest you. Don’t show anyone your cards.
  • Don’t introduce these topics, that would be impolite. Wait for your host’s PA to mention them.
  • Talk about topics that interest you, politely ignore others.
  • Share general topics.
  • Goal: Enjoy the ride.

1. Bring or have your group make up cards with a wide range of relatively “safe” topics and a few tricky ones thrown in (politics, religion, health, love). (Click on the link for readymade ones: Small talk topics)

2. Divide the class in two  – drivers and passengers – and give each half their brief to discuss as a group.

3. Spread all of the cards out on a table and let the passengers each pick out 3 cards containing topics that they are truly interested in. These topics must remain secret.

4. Each “driver” then sits next to a “passenger”, and they play driving from the station or airport. They make small talk, from “How was the trip?” on. Pairs work in parallel. Teacher (and perhaps a student assistant) monitors and takes notes of what words the pairs find they lack.

5. Debrief. “What did you learn? What was easy? What was hard? What do you want to work on?”

6. Then switch roles and do it again.

I think this was the most successful activity we did that day. I’ll be doing it again with a new group next week.

I grew up on Capitol Hill in Washington DC, and ‘ran away’ to Germany to study when I was 19. I’d say I’ve gone native here. I’m a freelancer, delivering English and communication skills training to business people and college students, translating, recording audio for several EFL publishers, and writing language exercises for Spotlight Online. My blog, The Island Weekly, keeps me connected to students, friends and teacher colleagues all over the world. I’m involved in my local teachers’ association here in Munich. Our PLN (I’m @annehodg on Twitter)  has been a boon for professional development. When I’m off relaxing, you’ll find me sailing, making music, reading or just plain outdoors.

6 Comments

  1. Barbara says:

    I am SO glad I’ve gotten to know you online, Anne. I really appreciate your enthusiasm for learning, and experience teaching.

    I am already thinking about how I can adapt this activity for my senior group this week–I think they’ll love it!

    Thanks for sharing it with us.

  2. […] This post was mentioned on Twitter by Colin Graham, Beyza Y.. Beyza Y. said: RT @barbsaka: Guest post from @annehodg "A socializing game: Driver's seat" (Stuff all EFL teachers should know) http://ow.ly/20DsE #efl #es […]

  3. Marisa Pavan says:

    What a resourceful post! Many times it’s really difficult to make students speak and this task gives context to a conversation and helps students not to feel at a loss.
    Thanks for sharing it!
    Marisa

  4. Anne Hodgson says:

    Thank you Barbara – and Marisa! The metaphor of the driver’s seat really worked for these assistants, giving them a sense of control and security. Of course they aren’t always expected to drive the small talk – with their Arab and Japanese visitors, for instance, they said they’ll usually take a back seat.

  5. […] My contribution is on a socializing game I did recently and will repeat this coming week. It’s a variation on one I learned from Jo Westcombe, whom I owe many, many great ideas to. […]

  6. […] Hodgson, for The Island Weekly. Her guest post, A Socializing Game: Driver’s Seat, introduces a speaking game that will get your more advanced learners taking a more proactive role […]

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